TED英语演讲稿：请别忘记感谢身边的人

英语演讲稿请别忘记感谢身边的人TED英语演讲稿请别忘记感谢身边的人TEDHi.Im hereto talkto youabout theimportanceof praise,admiration andthank you,and havingit bespecificand genuine.嗨我在这里要和大家谈谈向别人表达赞美，倾佩和谢意的重要性并使它们听来真诚，具体And theway Igot interestedin thiswas,I noticedin myself,when Iwas growingup,and untilabout afew yearsago,that Iwouldwant tosay thankyou tosomeone,I wouldwant topraisethem,I wouldwant totake in their praiseof meand Idjust stopit.And Iasked myself,why I felt shy,Ifeltembarrassed.Andthen myquestion became,am Ithe onlyone whodoes thisSo,Idecided toinvestigate.之所以我对此感兴趣是因为我从我自己的成长中注意到几年前，当我想要对某个人说声谢谢时，当我想要赞美他们时，当我想接受他们对我的赞扬，但我却没有说出口我问我自己，这是为什么？我感到害羞，我感到尴尬接着我产生了一个问题难道我是唯一一个这么做的人吗所以我决定做些探究Im fortunateenough towork inthe rehabfacility,so I getto seepeople whoare facinglife anddeath withaddiction.Andsometimes itcomes downto somethingas simpleas,their corewoundis theirfather diedwithout eversaying hesproud ofthem.But then,they hearfrom allthe familyand friendsthat thefathertold everybodyelse thathe wasproud ofhim,but henever toldtheson.Its becausehe didntknow thathis sonneeded to hearit.我非常幸运的在一家康复中心工作，所以我可以看到那些因为上瘾而面临生与死的人有时候这一切可以非常简单地归结为，他们最核心的创伤来自于他们父亲到死都未说过〃他为他们而自豪’但他们从所有其它家庭或朋友那里得知他的父亲告诉其他人为他感到自豪，但这个父亲从没告诉过他儿子因为他不知道他的儿子需要听到这一切So myquestion is,why dontwe askfor thethings thatweneed I know agentleman,married for25years,whos longingtohear hiswife say,Thank youfor beingthe breadwinner,so Icanstay homewith the kids,but wontask.Iknowa womanwhos goodatthis.She,once aweek,meets withher husbandand says,Idreally likeyou tothank mefor allthese thingsI didinthehouseand withthekids.And hegoes,Oh,this isgreat,this isgreat.And praisereally doeshave tobe genuine,but shetakesresponsibility forthat.And afriend ofmine,April,who Ivehadsince kindergarten,she thanksher childrenfor doingtheirchores.And shesaid,Why wouldntI thankit,even thoughtheyresupposed todo it因此我的问题是，为什么我们不索求我们需要的东西呢我认识一个结婚年的男士渴望听到他妻子说，〃感谢你为25这个家在外赚钱，这样我才能在家陪伴着孩子，’但他从来不去问我认识一个精于此道的女士每周一次，她见到丈夫后会说，〃我真的希望你为我对这个家和孩子们付出的努力而感谢我’他会应和到〃哦，真是太棒了，真是太棒了’赞扬别人一定要真诚，但她对赞美承担了责任一个从我上幼儿园就一直是朋友的叫的人，她会感谢她的孩子们做了家务April她说〃为什么我不表示感谢呢，即使他们本来就要做那些事情’So,the questionis,why wasI blocking it Whywere otherpeopleblockingitWhy canI say,Ill takemy steakmedium rare,I needsize sixshoes,but Iwont say,Would youpraise methisway Andits becauseIm givingyou criticaldata aboutme.Imtelling you where Iminsecure.Im tellingyouwhereI needyourhelp.And Imtreating you,my innercircle,like yourethe enemy.Because whatcan youdo withthat dataYou couldneglect me.Youcould abuseit.Or youcould actuallymeet myneed.因此我的问题是，为什么我不说呢？为什么其它人不说呢？为什么我能说〃我要一块中等厚度的牛排，我需要号6尺寸的鞋子，’但我却不能说〃你可以赞扬我吗’因为这会使我把我的重要信息与你分享会让我告诉了你我内心的不安会让你认为我需要你的帮助虽然你是我最贴心的人，我却把你当作是敌人你会用我托付给你的重要信息做些什么呢？你可以忽视我你可以滥用它或者你可以满足我的要求And Itook mybike intothe bikestore一一I lovethis--samebike,and theyddo somethingcalled truingthe wheels.The guysaid,You know,when youtrue thewheels,its goingto makethebike somuch better.Igetthe samebike back,and theyvetakenall thelittle warpsout ofthose samewheels Ivehad fortwo andahalf years,and mybike islike new.So,Im goingto challengeallof you.I wantyou totrue yourwheels:be honestabout thepraisethat you need tohear.What doyouneedtohearGo hometoyour wife一一go askher,what doesshe needGo hometo yourhusband--what doeshe needGo homeand askthose questions,and thenhelp thepeople aroundyou.我把我的自行车拿到车行一我喜欢这么做一同样的自行车，他们会对车轮做整形那里的‘人说〃当你对车轮做整形时，它会使自行车变成更好’我把这辆自行车拿回来，他们把有小小弯曲的铁丝从轮子上拿走这辆车我用了年半，2现在还像新的一样所以我要问在场的所有人，我希望你们把你们的车轮整形一下真诚面对对你们想听到的赞美你们想听到什么呢？回家问问你们的妻子，她想听到什么？回家问问你们的丈夫，他想听到什么？回家问问这些问题，并帮助身边的人实现它们script type二〃。