劳拉特莱斯TED演讲：别忘了说声谢谢

劳拉特莱斯演讲别忘了说声谢谢TED这是一篇由网络搜集整理的关于劳拉特莱斯TED演讲别忘了说声谢谢的文档，希望对你能有帮助嗨我在这里要和大家谈谈向别人表达赞美，倾佩和谢意的重要性并使它们听来真诚，具体And theway Igot interestedin thiswas,I noticedin myself,when Iwas growingup,and untilabouta fewyears ago,that I would want to sayth ank you to someone,I wouldwant topraise them,Iwouldwant totake in their praiseof meand Ldjust stopit And I askedmyself,why Ifelt shy,I feltembarrassed.And thenmy questionbecame,am Ithe onlyone whodoes thisSo,I decidedto investigate.之所以我对此感兴趣是因为我从我自己的成长中注意到儿年前，当我想要对某个人说声谢谢时，当我想要赞美他们时，当我想接受他们对我的赞扬，但我却没有说出口我问我自己，这是为什么我感到害羞,我感到尴尬接着我产生了一个问题难道我是唯——个这么做的人吗所以我决定做些探究Im fortunateeno ughto workin therehab facility,so I get tosee peoplewho arefacing lifeanddeath withaddiction.And sometimesit comesdown tosomething assimple as,their corewound istheirfather diedwithout eversaying hesproud ofthem.But then,they hearfrom all the familyandfriends thatthe fathertold everybodyelse thathe wasproud ofhim,but henever toldthe son.Itsbecause hedidnt knowthat hisson neededto hearit.我非常幸运的在一家康复中心工作，所以我可以看到那些因为上瘾而面临生与死的人有时候这一切可以非常简单地归结为，他们最核心的创伤来自于他们父亲到死都未说过〃他为他们而自豪但他们从所有其它家庭或朋友那里得知他的父亲告诉其他人为他感到自豪，但这个父亲从没告诉过他儿子因为他不知道他的儿子需要听到这一切So myquestion is,why dontwe askfor thethings thatwe needI know a gentlemar\married for25years,whos longingto hearhis wifesay,Thank you for beingthe breadwinner,so Ican stay1home withthe kids/but wontask•|knowawoman whosgood atthis.She oncea week,meetswith herhusband andsays,Td reallylike youto thankme forall thesethings Idid inthe houseandwith thekids.And hegoes,Oh,this isgreat,this isgreat.And praisereally doeshave tobe genuine,but shetakes resporisibility forthat.And atrie ndof mine,April,who Ive had sincekindergarten,shethanks herchildren fordoing theirchores.And shesaid,Why wouldnt Itha nkit,eve nthoughtheyre supposedto doit因此我的问题是，为什么我们不索求我们需要的东西呢我认识一个结婚年的男士渴望听到他妻子说,25〃感谢你为这个家在外赚钱，这样我才能在家陪伴着孩子，〃但他从来不去问我认识一个精于此道的女每±o周一次，她见到丈夫后会说，〃我真的希望你为我对这个家和孩子们付出的努力而感谢我〃他会应和到〃哦，真是太棒了，真是太棒了”赞扬别人一定要真诚，但她对赞美承担了责任一个从我上幼儿园就一直是朋友的叫的，人，她会感谢她的孩子们做了家务她说「为什么我不表示感谢呢，即使他们本来就要做那些April事骨So,the questionis,why wasI blockingit Whywere otherpeople blockingit Whycan|say,I IItakemy steakmedium rare,I needsize sixshoes,but Iwont say,Would youpraise methis wayAnd its becauserm givingyou criticaldata aboutme.Im tellingyou whereIm insecure•telling youwhereI needyour help.And Imtreating you,my innercircle,like yourethe enemy.Because whatcanyou dowith thatdata You could neglectme.Youcouldabuse it.Or youcould actuallymeet myneed•因此我的问题是，为什么我不说呢为什么其它人不说呢为什么我能说〃我要一块中等厚度的牛排，我需要号尺寸的鞋子「但我却不能说〃你可以赞扬我吗〃因为这会使我把我的重要信息与你分享会让我告诉了你6我内心的不安会让你认为我需要你的帮助虽然你是我最贴心的人，我却把你当作是敌人你会用我托付给你的重要信息做些什么呢你可以忽视我你可以滥用它或者你可以满足我的要求汰And Itook mybike intothe be store—I lovethis—same bike,and theyddo something先Hcalled ruingthe wheels.The guysaid,You knowwhen youtrue thewheels,its goingto makethebike somuch better.Igetthe samebike back,and theyvetake nallthelittle warpsout ofthosesame wheelsIvehadfor twoand ahalf years,and mybike islike new-So,Im goingto challengeallof you.I wantyoutotrue yourwheels:be honestabout thepraise thatyou need to hear.What doyouneedtohear Go home toyour wife—go askher what does she need Gohome toyourzhusband--whatdoesheneedGohomeand askthose questions,and thenhelp thepeople aroundyou•我把我的自行车拿到车行--我喜欢这么做一同样的自行车，他们会对车轮做整形那里的人说〃当你对车轮做整形时，它会使自行车变成更好〃我把这辆自行车拿回来，他们把有小小弯曲的铁丝从轮子上拿走这辆车我用了年半，现在还像新的一样所以我要问在场的所有人，我希望你们把你们的车轮整形一下真诚面对对2你们想听到的赞美你们想听到什么呢回家问问你们的妻子，她想听到什么回家问问你们的丈夫，他想听到什么回家问问这些问题，并帮助身边的人实现它们Anditssimple.And whyshould wecare aboutthis Wetalk aboutworld peace.How canwe haveworldpeace withdifferent cultures,different languagesI thinkit startshousehold byhousehold,under thesame roof.So,lets makeit rightin ourown backyard.AndIwanttothank allof youinthe；audienee forbeing greathusbands,great mothersfriends,daughters,sons.And maybesomebodys；never saidthat toyou,but youvedone areally reallygood job.And thankyouforbeing here,justshowing upand changingthe worldwith yourideas.非常简单为什么要关心这个呢我们谈论世界和平我们怎么用不同的文化，不同的语言来保持世界和平我想要从每个小家庭开始所以让我们在家里就把这件事情做好我想要感谢所有在这里的人们因为你们是好丈夫，好母亲，好伙伴，好女儿和好儿子或许有些人从没跟你们说过但你们已经做得非常非常得出色了感谢你们来到这里，向世界显示着你们的智慧，并用它们改变着世界。